Diana Holquist writer. mother. cat lover. (not necessarily in that order)


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Battle Hymn of the Tiger Daughter


How one family fought the myth that you have to destroy childhood to raise extraordinary adults.

What does a “successful” child look like?

If you imagined a straight-A-earning, classical-music-playing, rule-following, Ivy-bound prodigy, you’re not alone.

This is what I thought what my kid should look like, too. I was determined to raise my child in this image, no matter the cost. After all, I was one of those kids (Columbia U). The traditional path to success sure worked for me.

I was a Tiger Mother.

But then life intervened in ways I couldn’t have imagined. I was faced with two choices: impose my will no matter the trauma. Or, take a frightening, uncharted path—

—to where?

A sub-standard child, unable to succeed on the level I had?

Did letting up mean letting my child down?

Answering these questions took my family on a fascinating journey. What looked and felt like failure after failure on adult terms led to a different kind of success: mad creativity, fierce independence, and relentless self-direction.

In other words, everything an adult needs to make it in today’s world.

So what does a successful child look like?

She looks like my child. And if you consider a similar path by relaxing, backing off, letting up, and settling down, she (or he) just might look a lot like yours.

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(For Diana's small-town women's fiction written as Sophie Gunn, visit Sophie Gunn.com. For Diana's contemporary romantic comedies, click on the books tab, above.)